HELP!!!

[lovelight]

Hello - I'm new to this forum and hope that someone will read this and will help me to move past my emotional devastation with my recent breakup. I was involved with a guy on and off for the last three years and I finally ended it this past December. We had so many negative forces inside and out that tore us apart. However, when things were good, they were great. I always saw the beautiful soul he had within him and which is why I fell in love with him despite everything else. Nonetheless, I couldn't take the constant drama and rollercoaster ride and so I ended it and felt certain with my decision that it was the best for both of us. However, my heart shifted after about three months and I for some reason felt how in-love I was with him still. I don't understand why I had that shift and wish it would not of happened becaause he has already moved on fell in love with another - so he says. So my question is, why did my heart shift from being ok with the decision of leaving to absolutely loving him again??? I want to be free from this and have prayed and prayed and talked to my guides and still they tell me to be still - and that is so hard becasuse my mind is racing and my yearning for him is pathetic. I try to stay balanced, however I'm very sensitive to his energies and it makes things worse for me! No matter what I try to do to distract myself from him - he is still there. This torment is killing me and making me crazy. I can't move on because when I started seeing someone after the breakup it was all great and then the shift occured - if I see someone again, my heart is not in the right place and will make me want my ex even more. Is this a curse or what?? Can anyone advise?

[Anne Toinnette]

Hello LoveLight,

Welcome. I am sorry to hear of the heartbreak you are feeling at this time. No it is not a curse. I am Administrator of the forum and also conduct a Free Compassion Clinic within. if you would like to meet up and talk please let me know, we can set up a time to chat. I cannot answer your question without talking to you about this and hearing more of the situation. Here is the link to the post on the Clinic if you would like to read about it first. Look forward to talking to you soon.

http://voiceoftheangels.com/spiritualforum/index.php/topic,401.15.html

Many Angelic Blessings, Anne Toinnette

[richard]

Hello;
I am also sorry to hear about your sadness.  But, one thing that people say to do is you have to forget about the past.  But the past is what makes you what you are.  I believe, you don't want to just forget the past and pretend it did not exist.  You shared your energy with this person for 3 years.  It will take time to separate and there will be times you will think of the other person.  I still do for relationships that ended years ago.  But, we know it was the right thing to move on.  Our paths move in different directions and we need to be true to ourselves.  It does not mean that you have to stop loving or caring for him.  It just means that you will be moving on to fulfill your life's purpose and destiny.  When serious relationships end, there is a process to go through with your emotions just like the grieving process.  Be true to yourself, curl up with a good book, gentle fire, and the biggest bucket of ice cream you can find and enjoy the process.  You are becoming a stronger person through this experience and knowing more about what you are and what you want in this life, time, and place.  With the springtime (assuming you are in the northern  hemisphere), it is a great time to do the spring cleaning (as Dyan's daily message said) and open yourself to these emotions, find out what's behind them and to honor yourself for having them and to prepare yourself for the new life that you have created each day.  Anne's clinic can certainly help with this process and help you see the glory that is all around you.  don't chastise yourself for feeling - rejoice in feeling.  If we can help, please don't hesitate to contact us.

Love and Light,

Richard