Hi Dyan

I am in my own business which has been failing for so many years now and financially I am in a bad way. The fear, stress and worry is crippling me and all my relationships around me.

Let me get to my point. My faith. I am losing my faith and I sometimes find myself wondering if I am kidding myself about God and his angels.

I am praying and asking everyday for a miracle, guidance, anything and I don’t know what more to do. It has been such a long struggle that I don’t know what I have done to deserve this, I have a failed marriage, estranged kids and now a worried new partner. I feel desperate and don’t know where to go from here.I don’t want to give up for fear of total financial ruin. I am really scared. Can I ask the angels to prove to me that they are there and guiding me? Help! I need some kind of advice!!!

Thanks, Confused, Scared, and Frustrated.
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Dear Confused, Scared, and Frustrated:

There is a lot here and I’m going to try to help you sort it all out in a way that makes tangible sense to you. But let’s start first with the basics. When we are in fear mode, we can create nothing. The power to create comes from Love, not fear, and the two cannot coexist in the same place at the same time. I’m sure you aren’t feeling very loving right now and right there that is enough to immobilize you.

So the very first thing to do is to get out of fear mode because this is what is paralyzing you. This may seem challenging at first, but if you understand that it is in your way and you need to eliminate it, it shouldn’t be that difficult. You can already see how this is crippling your life in every way.

Now, to get to the part about you losing your faith, try to understand faith as something that we pull out when things are going badly, not something we have when everything is rosy. You really do have faith, but the perspective from which you are looking at things is that nothing is nothing is going your way, so you are ready to give up. My dear, first try to understand that failure is an illusion. Please read my blog post on “Success and Failure.” Miracles are not something that happen in a way that we tell them to. We cannot tell the universe to make things show up in a way that we demand it to be so. To try to do so is again, to be in your own way.

Now, let’s take these things one by one. You say you have a business that is failing. If failure is an illusion, which it really is, even if you cannot see it as so just yet, then we can say that this appears to be failing because you are measuring success and failure in terms of money. Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen here? You lose your business? You have to try to come to a place where you are not so terrified of this. Ask yourself why you find this so terrifying and I think you will come up with the answer that you are basing all of your concepts of self-worth and survival on this.

Right now you are defining yourself and your life in terms of money as it relates to self-worth. That has to go in order for you to be able to move forward. The most important part of that is to examine who taught you this pattern? Where did you learn about money? Where did you learn about “success.” Who taught you about “failure?” I think you will find that what is going on now in your life is a reflection of those that taught you such things. Try to see it and from there you can make a decision on whether or not this is your belief system or someone else’s. That’s the turning point.

Now, in terms of the failed marriage, this is not a failure either. It is simply a lesson. Study it and all of the patterns that went on there in the relationship and see if you can find a theme of ongoing patterns. Those are the patterns that tell you that you are not good enough, that you are a “failure,” that you “deserve” or “don’t deserve” based on someone else’s concept of worthiness. That is what you have to clear and eliminate along with the idea and concept of “failed marriage.”

Begin to look at everything as “lessons” and “patterns” rather than “success” and “failure.” Those are the things you need to do to begin to open the flow for the energy of money. Now, begin to wonder what would come after a loss of your business. Is there life after this? Yes, indeed! I can see it, even if you can’t, but you have to let go. And letting go is not the same as giving up. Right now all this is about is that you are simply not aligned with your life’s purpose. It’s like a course correction. It may feel scary, but try to overcome that. Nothing can happen if you insist on pulling the steering wheel in the opposite direction. Isn’t this when we crash into a tree? You see, I believe that if you open up to this concept of something really wonderful happening after you just simply let go, that you will begin to see your life transforming in every way.

As for angel’s guidance and presence, of course you can ask for a sign. And here it is. This entire website is about angelic guidance. It is about helping people find their way through the illusion. We will help and guide you. You are not alone. If you have not already done so, please send Tamara the Angel Listener a private message through the spiritual forum. She will schedule you a time for a completely free angel reading in live private chat.

Every blessing to you,

Dyan