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Dear Dyan:
I grew up in a family (including a cruel mother) that did not love me, so I coped by overeating. After college, I spent 20+ years working in Fortune 500 companies that continued the same cruel political treatment, and during my employment I gained additional weight. I have since left my old job, gone through some serious medical issues, been diagnosed with depression (not genetically – but from childhood trauma), started to paint, and see a counselor who has helped me end all birth family contacts and begin to start a new life for myself. I have lost and gained weight over the past years, and I was hoping you would be able to help me understand, heal, and release my old coping patterns with food.
Many heartfelt thanks. – Ann R.

Hello Ann:
In our society we tend to view food as “love.” Of course it’s not, but that’s the underlying belief system. If you look at that word you will notice the “lying” contained in there. It’s a lie. Overweight in spiritual terms is basically just protection. You were protecting yourself from your cruel mother and other trauma.

Now we get to patterns. Since you couldn’t “get” love from your mother by eating, in other words, the core spiritual issue remained unresolved, you just attracted a familiar pattern by working in Fortune 500 companies. We encounter opportunities to heal issues that haven’t been resolved by simply attracting situations that will give us a forum to do so. Painting is wonderful therapy because it opens up the emotional body in ways that other things cannot. It’s another opportunity to heal.

The way to release the old coping patterns is first to understand the base of the matter, which I just told you. Then to understand that releasing patterns is a process. Then to understand about love. We cannot and do not get love from the outside. We come in here with love in every fiber of our being. Then we are taught certain things that may take us away from the core of who we really are. Right now you’re just making your way back to the real you. Basically it entails “unlearning” whatever has been taught to you or that you have previously perceived about love.

There is another important thing to understand. Our birth contracts are all about love even if they don’t look that way or feel that way. It’s important to understand that we live in an illusion that was created for the purpose of learning lessons in love. I know it doesn’t feel like that. But that’s what it is.

You see, your cruel mother and you agreed to do this lesson because it is about love. That’s the truth. When we’re up in the holding chamber with our soul group before we choose to incarnate here, we make agreements. It goes something like this:

Mother: “I love you so much.”

Ann: “I need and want to learn some very important things about love. Will you teach me?”

Then you agree on the best way to do this.

Ann: “Mother, will you agree to show up as this very cruel person, so that I may have every opportunity to learn about loving myself?

Mother: “Ann, you aren’t going to like that very much. You will probably forget how very much I love you and think of me as a horrible, cruel person your whole life.”

Ann: “I know, but can we please do this lesson together? It will help me remember the love that I am.”
Agreed.

You see? It will help you to move forward if you are able to see the role your mother has played here and why. It’s all about love even if it doesn’t look like it or feel like it. I’m not saying that here on the earth plane that all of the things that you’ve endured are not valid. They are. However, it’s all about love. I hope that helps you, Dear One.

My CD “Release” is all about this. It’s eleven tracks of music vibrationally attuned to gently release what is stuck. You will find it here Music from “Release” is often heard on Music Choice’s Soundscapes cable TV channel and many other radion stations. It charted #3 on the music billboard, and includes #1 charting songs. I wept while I recorded it. It works!
Love to you, Darling.

Dyan Garris
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Dear Dyan:

 In May I had an astrology reading done which informed me of many changes coming into my life especially my love life.  The astrologer pinpointed when the contact would occur and the circumstances surrounding it. It did happen. We came in contact via e-mail and exchanged three e-mails, upon which I sent him my pictures and another e-mail saying hello to his personal e-mail.  I haven’t heard from him since July 9^th.  

And without being too pushy how can I determine whether or not he is not interested anymore, or maybe he hasn’t received my e-mails?  I have read many astrology reports since then. They say that we are “companions of destiny.”  The astrologer told me that sometimes you have to reach out and grab your destiny and that it would be up to me.

Our initial e-mails were done through a particular website so I don’t know what happened and should I pursue this matter?  The Angel card readings told me that all is moving accordingly and that new love is coming to my life, so what seems to be the obstacle?

With love and light,

Marzena

Dearest Marzena:

You have a beautiful name for a beautiful soul. I agree with the astrologer that we do have to reach out for our destiny. One of the most frequently asked questions any psychic gets asked is “Where is my soul mate?” I just did an interview on my radio program with soul mate expert Marj Bowers, the author of “Soulmates…The Truth.” I think you might be interested in listening to the archive. It sheds new light on the whole soul mate issue. Here is the link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/voice-of-the-angels-

I also find that when we are attached to outcome, we do block our own path. Blocking ourselves in this way is definitely an obstacle to getting what we want. This is where I think too that there are certain cautions with which one should approach any reading. “Destiny” does get affected by free will. It’s something important to keep in mind.

Energy shifts and changes with free will. Then everything that follows shifts and changes from that as well. It’s the musical dance of the universe. But everything, everything always works to the highest good. So we have to be willing to accept a situation either way it shows up. This allows for energy flow and keeps us out of that attachment that is so fond of blocking our way.

We do have many soul mates here and we have them for very good reasons. These are aspects of the same soul. If one doesn’t work out because of free will choices, then we have opportunity for the same lessons with another aspect of the same soul. If that is confusing, begin to see yourself as a multi-dimensional being with many realities throughout the universe. If that is confusing, just know that we have opportunity to meet many that we have deep and what we think of as ”soul mate” connection with. There is just not necessarily one perfect, ultimate person for us. Everything is a lesson in love, with or without “soul mate.”

With regard to your question about whether or not you should pursue this, I vote for maybe one more email, then go on about your life. If he doesn’t answer, then as they say, he’s just not that into it. Move forward then. I find that people do make time for whatever it is they decide to make priority. You deserve to be priority. Be open to the possibility of love showing up, but in a different face. In this way, you allow it to happen, probably when you aren’t even expecting it. It’s sort of like a nice cosmic gift for lessons learned.

Angel Blessings to you,

Dyan

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Hello Dyan:

Today I was sat at my computer and all of a sudden I noticed something tiny floating up from the floor on my right hand side, I looked and followed it with my eyes, and it came right in front of my face, and just hovered there for a few seconds.  At first I thought it was smoke or something, but i caught it, and when I looked it was the tiniest softest whitest feather i have ever seen.

Dearest White Feather:

Thank you for writing and for the compliment on the site. I appreciate it very much. I’m sorry to hear you are having such a rough time and please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. There are many meanings for white feathers, a primary and traditional one being a symbol of cowardice. However, in metaphysical terms, the white feather symbolizes peace and spiritual awakening. It can also mean good news is forthcoming and that things you have been worried about aren’t as horrible as you think. It’s also a symbol our angels use to let us know they are there and that they seek to bring us comfort in that knowledge that we are being guided, protected, and looked after, even if it doesn’t seem so.  The white feather that was sent to you is a sign that your angels are around you. Please take comfort in this, try to manage your stress in healthy ways, and find joy in little moments as this begins to open pathways for you. Your white feather is a very special gift to you.

Angelic Blessings are all around you,

Dyan

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