Mandy At A Crossroads
Hi Dyan:
I came across your site basically whilst looking for answers.
I am at a bit of a crossroads in my life and I am hoping to study holistics and complimentary therapy. I am an optimistic, healthy enough person and I am celebrating my 40th in October.
I was told about angels a few years ago, and to be honest thought it was silly, even though I am very open minded. But after asking for guidance and having been helped so far in decisions and mental matters, I do believe wholeheartedly they are with me always.
My question I guess is, if my path is clear and open, and I am at this new phase in my life, and I am being protected and kept safe, then do I trust my instinct regarding my future? Or do I be a little reckless? Or just do what makes me happy?
I am an academic and have worked for many years as a counselor, healthcare lecturer. Studying does not come easy to me and I have to work really hard, but I have always wanted a more hands-on calming career that involves massage, aromatherapy, Reiki, and beauty. But people are looking at me as if it is a step down!
I am so confused, I just want to be happy and not look back and think I didn’t take enough risks. Any advice will be gratefully received and apologies if my writing is as confused as my feelings.
Love & Wishes from Mandy
in Scotland
Hello Dear Mandy:
Thank you for finding us here and connecting. And yes, indeed angels are with us always! No doubt about it. Now to answer your questions: There are a couple of really big things involved here and these underlie your whole issue. If you can clear them up, the confusion will dissipate and the path will become clear.
The first one is to ask yourself why you wouldn’t trust your instinct regarding your future. While you’re examining this, look to the underlying pattern. Look to the times in your life when you didn’t trust your instincts and then examine what followed. And see if you can identify where the urge to be reckless may have originated from. For example, as a teenager, if someone told you that you couldn’t do something, did it make you feel as if you wanted to go out and take risks even though your instincts told you otherwise?
Also look at who taught you not to trust your instincts and why. This is the root of the matter. We create from our root and if our root is blocked in this way, we find it challenging to create much of anything. And consequently we end up feeling stuck, blocked, confused, and find it challenging to move forward.
The next thing I see here is that when we let other people tell us who we are we really get off our path and become misaligned. This blocks the flow of energy necessary for co-creation. We need to learn to validate ourselves.
I understand about people looking at you as if it’s a step down. People tend to formulate a perspective of a person, and then have trouble seeing them in some other way. We do this because as humans we have tendencies to need to label and classify things so that we can understand them from our own belief systems, perceptions, and perspectives. As humans, this is also very limiting for all.
We need to learn to be secure in who we are and our choices and our instincts. It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks. It only matters what you think. You are in charge of defining yourself.
When we’re aligned with our purpose, the rest follows. Everything falls into place. We cannot NOT be who we are. We’re living in a time period where the universe is truly asking us “Who are you?” So you must begin by asking yourself whether at a fundamental and root level you are a lightworker or an academic.
Then, of course, one could take it all a step further and ask oneself if they could combine the two. Combining different aspects of ourselves is really a big key to turning the recipe of your life into one very unique, tasty, and very satisfying dish, rather than some boring thing that may look good and may feed others satisfactorily, but does nothing whatsoever to assuage our own hunger.
Angelic Blessings to you, Mandy, as you move forward on your path!
Dyan
