Ann Overeating
Dear Dyan:
I grew up in a family (including a cruel mother) that did not love me, so I coped by overeating. After college, I spent 20+ years working in Fortune 500 companies that continued the same cruel political treatment, and during my employment I gained additional weight. I have since left my old job, gone through some serious medical issues, been diagnosed with depression (not genetically – but from childhood trauma), started to paint, and see a counselor who has helped me end all birth family contacts and begin to start a new life for myself. I have lost and gained weight over the past years, and I was hoping you would be able to help me understand, heal, and release my old coping patterns with food.
Many heartfelt thanks. – Ann R.
Hello Ann:
In our society we tend to view food as “love.” Of course it’s not, but that’s the underlying belief system. If you look at that word you will notice the “lying” contained in there. It’s a lie. Overweight in spiritual terms is basically just protection. You were protecting yourself from your cruel mother and other trauma.
Now we get to patterns. Since you couldn’t “get” love from your mother by eating, in other words, the core spiritual issue remained unresolved, you just attracted a familiar pattern by working in Fortune 500 companies. We encounter opportunities to heal issues that haven’t been resolved by simply attracting situations that will give us a forum to do so. Painting is wonderful therapy because it opens up the emotional body in ways that other things cannot. It’s another opportunity to heal.
The way to release the old coping patterns is first to understand the base of the matter, which I just told you. Then to understand that releasing patterns is a process. Then to understand about love. We cannot and do not get love from the outside. We come in here with love in every fiber of our being. Then we are taught certain things that may take us away from the core of who we really are. Right now you’re just making your way back to the real you. Basically it entails “unlearning” whatever has been taught to you or that you have previously perceived about love.
There is another important thing to understand. Our birth contracts are all about love even if they don’t look that way or feel that way. It’s important to understand that we live in an illusion that was created for the purpose of learning lessons in love. I know it doesn’t feel like that. But that’s what it is.
You see, your cruel mother and you agreed to do this lesson because it is about love. That’s the truth. When we’re up in the holding chamber with our soul group before we choose to incarnate here, we make agreements. It goes something like this:
Mother: “I love you so much.”
Ann: “I need and want to learn some very important things about love. Will you teach me?”
Then you agree on the best way to do this.
Ann: “Mother, will you agree to show up as this very cruel person, so that I may have every opportunity to learn about loving myself?
Mother: “Ann, you aren’t going to like that very much. You will probably forget how very much I love you and think of me as a horrible, cruel person your whole life.”
Ann: “I know, but can we please do this lesson together? It will help me remember the love that I am.”
Agreed.
You see? It will help you to move forward if you are able to see the role your mother has played here and why. It’s all about love even if it doesn’t look like it or feel like it. I’m not saying that here on the earth plane that all of the things that you’ve endured are not valid. They are. However, it’s all about love. I hope that helps you, Dear One.
My CD “Release” is all about this. It’s eleven tracks of music vibrationally attuned to gently release what is stuck. You will find it here Music from “Release” is often heard on Music Choice’s Soundscapes cable TV channel and many other radion stations. It charted #3 on the music billboard, and includes #1 charting songs. I wept while I recorded it. It works!
Love to you, Darling.
Dyan Garris
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