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Dear Dyan:

I have been struggling with a relationship issue for the past year and have been trying to figure out what to do.  I feel that because of this heartbreak, I am on a spiritual journey to first and foremost love and accept myself.  I truly love this other person and want to share some of my journey with him.  He has shut the door on me and I didn’t know if there was a way to reach out to him to help him on his journey as well.  Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you and bless you.

Gail

Hello Dear Gail:

Relationships are a core issue, a root chakra issue, but also obviously involve other parts of ourselves, such as the heart. A healthy relationship involves our whole self. You are definitely on a spiritual journey to love and accept yourself at a very intrinsic level and on all levels. True. I’ve often said that the soul mate is not the person that comes in to complete us, but it’s the person that comes in when we’re already complete within our own spirits. We do also meet many soul mates here.

Everything is a lesson in love and we do have free will, so we can’t make a soul mate engage in a lesson with us, even if there is agreement to do so on a soul level. That’s what makes some of these lessons in love so challenging. It’s like we know the person, we recognize the person, but yet they run away from us, leaving us hurt and bewildered at their words and actions. Try to understand what’s transpired here in this way. By his free will he has decided not to engage in this lesson with you at this time. It’s not about you. It’s really about him.

If we love someone unconditionally, we allow them to simply have their journey, even if it isn’t the journey we want them to have. In this process we also learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally. That’s the bigger picture. You’ve heard the saying “If you love something set it free and if it belongs to you it shall return to you?” This is the same thing I’m always telling people about letting go. To let go doesn’t mean that we don’t care. It means that we care enough to have unconditional love and trust in the universal process of our desires returning to us as form made manifest when we do let go. To do otherwise, disempowers us and blocks our own way. I hope this has brought some peace to your situation.

All angelic blessings to you,

Dyan

www.voiceoftheangels.com

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Hi Dyan:

I came across your site basically whilst looking for answers.

I am at a bit of a crossroads in my life and I am hoping to study holistics and complimentary therapy. I am an optimistic, healthy enough person and I am celebrating my 40th in October.

I was told about angels a few years ago, and to be honest thought it was silly, even though I am very open minded. But after asking for guidance and having been helped so far in decisions and mental matters, I do believe wholeheartedly they are with me always.

My question I guess is, if my path is clear and open, and I am at this new phase in my life, and I am being protected and kept safe, then do I trust my instinct regarding my future? Or do I be a little reckless? Or just do what makes me happy?

I am an academic and have worked for many years as a counselor, healthcare lecturer. Studying does not come easy to me and I have to work really hard, but I have always wanted a more hands-on calming career that involves massage, aromatherapy, Reiki, and beauty. But people are looking at me as if it is a step down!

I am so confused, I just want to be happy and not look back and think I didn’t take enough risks. Any advice will be gratefully received and apologies if my writing is as confused as my feelings.

Love & Wishes from Mandy
   in Scotland

Hello Dear Mandy:

Thank you for finding us here and connecting. And yes, indeed angels are with us always!  No doubt about it. Now to answer your questions: There are a couple of really big things involved here and these underlie your whole issue.  If you can clear them up, the confusion will dissipate and the path will become clear.

The first one is to ask yourself why you wouldn’t trust your instinct regarding your future.  While you’re examining this, look to the underlying pattern. Look to the times in your life when you didn’t trust your instincts and then examine what followed. And see if you can identify where the urge to be reckless may have originated from. For example, as a teenager, if someone told you that you couldn’t do something, did it make you feel as if you wanted to go out and take risks even though your instincts told you otherwise?

Also look at who taught you not to trust your instincts and why.  This is the root of the matter. We create from our root and if our root is blocked in this way, we find it challenging to create much of anything.  And consequently we end up feeling stuck, blocked, confused, and find it challenging to move forward.

The next thing I see here is that when we let other people tell us who we are we really get off our path and become misaligned. This blocks the flow of energy necessary for co-creation. We need to learn to validate ourselves.

 I understand about people looking at you as if it’s a step down. People tend to formulate a perspective of a person, and then have trouble seeing them in some other way.  We do this because as humans we have tendencies to need to label and classify things so that we can understand them from our own belief systems, perceptions, and perspectives.  As humans, this is also very limiting for all.

We need to learn to be secure in who we are and our choices and our instincts. It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks. It only matters what you think. You are in charge of defining yourself.

When we’re aligned with our purpose, the rest follows. Everything falls into place. We cannot NOT be who we are. We’re living in a time period where the universe is truly asking us “Who are you?” So you must begin by asking yourself whether at a fundamental and root level you are a lightworker or an academic.

Then, of course, one could take it all a step further and ask oneself if they could combine the two.  Combining different aspects of ourselves is really a big key to turning the recipe of your life into one very unique, tasty, and very satisfying dish, rather than some boring thing that may look good and may feed others satisfactorily, but does nothing whatsoever to assuage our own hunger.

Angelic Blessings to you, Mandy, as you move forward on your path!

Dyan

www.voiceoftheangels.com

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