Ex vs. Current
Dear Dyan,
I haven’t written before on an advice page but I have been using Voice of the Angels cards for over a year now and I always feel the benefit. I am writing to you as my life in a very short time has crumbled very quickly. My ex-husband who I left in 2003 after years of violence against me has been in court facing charges against children, (very unpleasant charges) I had to give evidence against him in court. As you can imagine I have been very preoccupied with the process and I fear that I have now alienated my lovely boyfriend. He has decided that he needs to spend more time at his parent’s house and I fear although he says he loves me and cares for me and my two children but I fear that I have pushed him away. It was never my intention to do that. I was just scared about having to speak in public. I have asked for advice from my spirit guides but I think I am so anxious at the moment I cant hear what they are saying. I know I can trust your judgment and your advice as to what to do to show my boyfriend that it’s him I love and care for not my ex-husband. Thank You
xx
Dear Ex vs. Currrent:
Hello! I’m very happy to hear that you are benefiting from the cards. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had this very challenging time lately. It takes a great deal of courage to leave an abusive situation and it takes a great deal of courage to testify in court. It’s true that we can’t hear anything from our guides when we are in a state of fear and anxiety. I am happy to be able to help you with this.
My dear, I do not feel you have alienated your boyfriend. I believe he just needs some space right now to figure things out. The quickest way to push him away though, is to stay in your pattern. And that’s one of the things your guides want you to examine right now. It’s as if you took over this abusive pattern of violence perpetrated against you by your ex-husband, and began attacking yourself and kept doing so long after he was gone. Do you see, Dear One?
You are sweet and loving, but must learn to also love yourself completely and unconditionally. That is the message from your guides. Examine who taught you to be unloving to yourself. And then decide if you want to keep that belief system and pattern or not. You see, we don’t get love and validation from the outside. That has to come from the inside first and it vibrates out. This is how we attract. If you’re vibrating to fear, anxiety, self-loathing, insecurity, and the like, then that is what returns to you. Please try to come to the place where you accept yourself completely and as lovingly as you love and care for your boyfriend.
People want to be with people who love and honor themselves. So give those feelings to yourself as well. You are worthy of them. And for now, my dear, let your boyfriend have his needed space, while you take this time to regroup and gather back your self-esteem and confidence. Then you can present your “new” selves to each other and hopefully move forward, perhaps after the Mercury retrograde. (This upcoming Mercury retrograde period is the perfect opportunity for self-examination and re-evaluation of patterns and belief systems.) Otherwise, you see, you’ve continued to let the ex abuse you. Do you see? That’s the root of the pattern. That’s what has to go.
And there is one more message here from your guides. They say you did the right thing.
Many blessings and peace to your heart. You are loved and valuable. And you are not alone.
Dyan
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