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Baby Angels

Dear Dyan, I’m hoping you can help me!! A while back I went to see a spiritual medium and he told me I was surrounded by baby angels. I am so confused because I don’t fully understand what he meant. I looked up baby angels but nothing comes up. Can you help me to understand please. Many thanks and blessings.

Hello Dear One:

Baby Angels are good! Baby angels are cherubs. They can signify more than one thing. Their presence could signify a need to be more playful in your life, to capture the essence of childhood in all that you do, and/or to heal from childhood wounds.

Also, baby angels could be around you to help you with the concept of motherhood. Their presence could signify to heal any remaining issues with your own mother, if necessary, and to examine your own concept of motherhood and childbearing. Also their presence would pertain to any child that you lost, gave up, or otherwise did not bring to “birth” here, and also would pertain to a “child knocking.” That would mean a child or children that have not yet incarnated through you in this lifetime.

Baby angels around you could also pertain to the birthing of a creative idea, rather than a physical child.  Baby angels are playful and loving, as are all angels, of course. But baby angels are gentle, sweet, childlike, and deliver their messages in perhaps surprising ways…as in “from the mouths of babes.” Remember, angels are messengers and any angelic presence around you is always trying to communicate important messages to you. We have only to listen. Hope that helps!

Baby Angel Blessings,

Dyan


Control Issues

Dear Dyan

Firstly thank you for providing such a great website. My dilemma is that I’m at a crossroads in my life and I suppose I’m being asked to trust and let go when one of my fears is losing control and being unsupported.

Looking back I have tended to use self abandonment/rejection as a way of controlling situations (unconciously until now).  I have read lots of personal development info and this latest ‘law of attraction’
concept seems to me to be about controlling what I want which is what I feel I need to let go of (ie controlling),so I’m confused. 

How do I let go of controlling and also release my self abandoning/rejection tendencies. I’m confused.

Hopefully you may be able to help.

Thank you

Christine

Dear Christine: 

You’re welcome, and thank you for writing and visiting voiceoftheangels.com. This is such a great letter!  I think so many people are feeling these very same things. To answer, I could write a book about this. I did! Money and Manifesting has a lot of the answers you seek. Now, half the battle is looking back and identifying your patterns and you’ve done that here, so that is excellent. When we identify a pattern we then have the power to change it, thus changing our lives. It’s step one in “forward moving energy.” You’re on the right track. Good for you!

And you’re absolutely right about having to let go. Absolutely. This is a very important step in manifesting that a lot of people just aren’t understanding.

Manifesting is a process. Co-creating is a process. The Law of Attraction is but one step in the process. The Law of Attraction is for attracting, not manifesting. Everything that’s currently being taught with the LOA is teaching people to create from the mind and that is just not how we create. We are not biologically designed to create “life” with our minds. We create from the root. And the energy of money resides in the root chakra.

In order to manifest, we need to basically “connect the dots” of the energy of all of the chakras, not just the energy contained in the mind. And the final step in manifesting is definitely to let go and let things go up and out from the 7th chakra, so they can return to you as form made manifest.

I wrote a meditation for manifesting “The Magic of Manifesting” to teach people just this very thing. In it you learn your angel’s name and they take you through all of the steps of co-creating and manifesting. You learn how supported you really are. We definitely were not just dropped off here on the planet. We are not alone. We are fully supported!

Now, how do you let go of the need to control? You’re already doing it. Being WILLING to just go with the flow is a huge thing. This is where we align our WILL with universal WILL. And being aligned with universal will is completely necessary in order to manifest and co-create. To try to use the LOA as a means to try to control what we “want” doesn’t ultimately work as many are beginning to figure out. And there is something else that you are learning too. We cannot create and manifest from a place of fear. We have to let go of fear. The power to create anything is in the love.

There is something else to understand here and that is about patterns. Patterns are taught to us. You didn’t come in here with self-abandoning/rejection tendencies. You were taught these things as a function of experiences or someone else’s belief systems. Once you fully understand that these “tendencies” do not really belong to you, and then figure out who they really do belong to, you will find it easier to just let go. That will be the very first thing that you can let go of. Then you will begin to see the energy in your life clearing up and you’ll find yourself moving forward.  Be willing to align, as you are, and understand that you are being guided, you are on the right track, and I see good things ahead. There is such power in letting go! Thank you for writing.

May Angels continue to bless you,

Dyan


Lost and In Pain

Dear Dyan:

I hope you can help me. I’m so lost because I suffer with anxiety which is ruining my life. I put on a lot of weight which is getting me down. I don’t have the energy to get out and lose it. I’m getting married next year and need to lose it. I just want to be normal again and have energy and not be in pain the whole time. My body aches from stress the whole time.

Please help me Dyan..xxxxxxx

Dear Lost:

I’m so sorry to hear of this. I can feel your pain all the way over here. It’s important to understand where physical pain comes from. This starts as perception outside the body and then filters in to the physical body eventually. To solve it and move forward, just like everything else, we must truly get to the very root. It’s the same for anxiety. So it would be important to try to examine where this pain originated from, if you can. It is also important to understand that it is not your “fault.” But get to the root and face whatever it is so you can have a platform for healing.

Next, Spirit is telling me to tell you to get you thyroid and adrenals checked. If these deficiencies do not show up on a traditional medical test the first time, then you need to seek alternative treatment. This would be through a naturopath, a homeopathist, and/or acupuncturist. There is help available and I know it’s challenging to do anything when you don’t feel well. But Spirit is emphatic that you take care of this now, no matter if you think you don’t have time, money, or resources to do so. Please do it anyway and the rest will follow.

Also, there is something you can do in the meantime that will be very helpful too. Begin to understand stress and anxiety as “inflammation.” And when we have inflammation, then we must do things to soothe and calm that down. Learn to use the breath as a tool to “cool” that inflammation. Find ten minutes to lie down and follow your breath through your body as you watch it calm things down like a balmy breeze or the healing breath of Angels. Feel the healing entering your body and allow your guardian angels to help ease the pain of this physical incarnation on all levels. You are very, very loved. You are safe. Take it in.

Peace and Harmony to you,

Dyan

 


Karma

Hi Diana, seems like ever since I moved to New Mexico I had a lot of karmic relationships.  Do I need to move or is this going to end soon?  I’ve tried everything to make things better.

 

Hello Dear:

Karma is a very interesting subject, and is often misunderstood. In a way we could say that all of our relationships are karmic, because we’ve agreed to all of them before we came here. And so also in a way, we could say that there is no such thing as karma. Whenever we find ourselves having a difficult, challenging time, we have to look more to patterns than to karma. Our conception of karma implies that it’s “payback” and if we look at it that way, this perception keeps us as victims. Really karma is a balance, rather than an eye for an eye. Moving is a choice, my dear and the thing is that we can move ourselves geographically, but our patterns and lessons definitely go with us. In your case you have to get to the root of the matter. It’s not about asking what you did wrong to deserve this treatment, however. It’s about asking what you really need to learn from these situations. That’s the question. And once you have the answer, you will find the “karma” disappears. My CD Connections is all about karma. It’s six tracks of music and 1 guided meditation at the end, all designed to help you release karma.

Wishing you Peace and Harmony,

Dyan


Letter from Feel So Lost

Dear Dyan:

Hi there, firstly I want to say thank you for the time that you dedicate to all of us who aren’t quite sure of where we are going or what we are doing.

I am just recently joined the forum and find that as much as I read I still don’t feel that I am getting the answers that I seek.  I have been told that I should just stop looking and learning however I just don’t feel that is the right thing for me.  I get the strongest feeling that I am missing something and that when I find it, it will open an amazing new life for me,
if that makes sense, like I am not really fulfilling what I am meant to be nor am I the person that was planned for me.  Does that make sense?  Sorry if it doesn’t.  Please if you have any advice for me or if you can ask my angels to make themselves known to me.  I know they are giving me signs and trying I’m just not sure on how to hear them.  As I type this Oprah has come on tv and funnily enough has Louise Hay on as a guest speaking about law of attraction, this is what I mean about signs.  Anyway I could write and write but know I must stop.  I look forward to your reply.

Blessings to you
thank you

Feel So Lost, Am I on the Right Track?

Dear Lost:

I’m happy to hear that you have joined the forum!  I look forward to connecting with you more there. Wondering what the purpose of our life is here is something that everyone ponders. Whether we realize it or not, everything here does weave together exactly the way it is supposed to. When we’re focused intently on something, it can block our path depending upon whether or not we’re attached to the outcome. And when we let go, we find that things start showing up.

When we are very attached to outcomes and insist on doing things our way, rather than in synchronicity with the universe, then we do also block our forward progress.  However, I don’t feel that someone should ever stop learning. Yes, I agree that the tapestry is still in the weaving process for you, yes. The best piece of advice I can give you for now is to learn to accept the things you cannot change, change the things you can, and be willing to let go of any attachment to outcome. Let things develop as they do.

The gift of life happens in every moment whether we realize it or not. If you wait to live your life until amazing things happen, you’ve missed your life. Truly. You can begin to create the life you desire in any given moment. Things change from the inside first, rather than the outside. Figure out how you want your life to show up. Then figure out exactly what needs to change in order to make that happen. Then figure out why or where you are either willing or unwilling to do whatever is entailed in making those changes.

Angel Hugs,

Dyan 


Letter from Heartbroken

Dear Dyan:

I love a man with all my heart and soul.  He has broken up with me to move
to China.  How do I stop loving him?  How do I stop crying about missing him?

Heartbroken

 

Dear Heartbroken:

Bless your heart, I feel your pain. Awwww. Love is the strongest power in the universe. The answer is you don’t stop loving. Ever. Without love, we are nowhere. When we truly love someone, we love unconditionally. And that includes being able to step aside from our own wants, needs, and desires to accept and honor the other person’s journey, wherever that journey may lead them. There is great and profound peace in simple acceptance. So, don’t stop loving him, but transform that love into something higher. That’s the challenge here. Know that his decision to move to China is part of his learning and part of his journey and also part of yours. Everything is always for a reason, even if we do not see or agree with the reason.

We do want the best for those we love.  From an earth plane perspective, when we focus on something other than our heartache and emptiness and begin to reach out a helping hand to others, we then have a platform for healing the pain. When we extend ourselves to others we open the flow for love to return to us. If we’re dictating how we want that love to return, we are telling the universe what to do and thus blocking ourselves in all areas.

Angel Love,

Dyan

 


Letter from Boniface

Hello Dyan,

Today is my first day on your website, it feels good to have found your
site. My story is I feel something GREAT is going to happen to and for me in
just days. I wanted to share this with you. Sometimes I feel
overwhelmed, amazed, not knowing enough and wanting to get all that is coming
to me. Many bad things happen in my life, some good and I try to always feel
happy. Underneath it all long time ago, I felt something so magical
(wonderful) about me. I feel that I will have a new, long life love and many
of God’s blessing. I feel the urge inside to know when, who, what date, the
person name and all these thoughts give a rushing feeling inside. I wish that
you can one day read this email and then you may feel something and can you
share… I feel that I love to have others with great understanding to what
I am trying to show/present/write. Can you ask my Angel to connect/talk to
me so that I can salute Him.

P.S. If it is your wish , please do email me I would be grateful.

I am glad to be able to let you enter my world,

God Bless you/family,

Boniface

Hello Boniface:

Thank you for writing and sharing your story. Welcome to Voice of the Angels.com.  It’s so wonderful when we have the feeling that something great is about to happen, isn’t it? It’s the best! You have the right attitude when you say you try to always feel happy no matter what. Sometimes that’s challenging, so I applaud you for staying on your center. I think we all have the urge to know the future. Knowing it makes us feel safe, protected, loved, and like there is actually a plan for us. It’s natural to want to know. It’s also what keeps psychics in business. My fondest wish is for everyone to KNOW that they are safe, valuable, loved, and protected no matter what it looks like and no matter if we know the future or we don’t. I feel you are on the right track with what you are doing. Continue to do it. Yes, I will definitely ask your Angel to talk with you. Talking to them is no different than talking to anyone else, really. They are there. They communicate on a different frequency and it’s just all a matter of tuning in and being willing to listen. You can do it. Let me know how it goes.

Love and blessings to you too,

Dyan


Scared of Psychic Abilities

Hi Mary Beth: Thank you for writing. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed the site and hope that you continue to do so. I’m answering your letter in a little different format than I normally do because there is a lot here. Please see my answers below.

Dear Dyan,
For over a year I have enjoyed your positive and spiritual site.  I would visit every morning and enjoy the Angel  Readings.  The past few months, I have been busy and seemed to have veered from my morning routine.  Today, I
was drawn to visit again.  I happened to read some of the Dear Dyan posts and saw that you were a psychic along with your many other talents.

 

Yes, I am clairvoyant, clairaudient, and clairsentient. In addition I’m a voice recognition psychic and a trance channel. I was awakened to these gifts at about three years old. 

Over the past few months, I have been having some visions, and “feelings”.  In the past, these were simple”flashes,” a picture. For example my young son (he’s 4) was with my husband supposedly at a friend’s house.  I saw a flash of my son falling off the back of a boat into brown water.  I called my husband and asked where he was…he was at the friend’s boat and my son jack was on the back without a lifejacket.  My husband was a little freaked out by what I told him I saw. 

It is important to note that we were not dropped off here on the planet with no way to “phone home.” We all have innate telepathy and we all have innate intuition. Also our angels and guides are always trying to communicate with us. We have only to listen. Nothing really strange about it. It’s normal and natural.

Once while resting after nursing my youngest child, I clearly heard a voice say, “You need to call Grandma Joe and tell her you love her and hope she finds her peace.”  Now I wasn’t thinking of her, I haven’t spoken to her in over 20 years…she is a narcissist and hurt my family and myself tremendously. 

Often, narcissists feel that they are the most “giving” people in the world. They truly do not understand that they are perceived totally differently by most people. They do not understand the consequences of their actions.

I would be the last person to tell her this and yet I couldn’t shake the feeling that I had to do this…an unbelievable feeling of love for her and sadness at the choices in her life filled me..I tried to call her to tell her that I love her and forgive her, but was unable to reach her for two weeks as the day I heard the voice, she was taken to the hospital due to a stroke and was then in a rehab.  I did finally speak to her and told her I love her and that if she ever needs me that I am here for her.  The most beautiful feeling of love and light filled me, it was beautiful!

You are very compassionate. Forgiveness is very powerful. Often people feel they have done their forgiveness work, but they’ve only really done it on one level – the physical, earthly level. Forgiveness must also be done in spirit as well. I think you just discovered this. Good work! It’s very, very forward moving energy.

As of late, I have been having more “dreams” and “feelings”.  I’m OK with the “flashes” or the “gut feelings.”  However, just recently, I began to get information..can’t explain it. It just comes into my head.

I understand completely. This is perfectly natural as well. These are your angels and guides communicating with you. Sometimes when people just begin to come awake to their abilities to communicate, they do get rather freaked out. When this happens, simply move the ego-self aside and accept this communication as normal, because it truly is.  Personally, I’d be more freaked out if I didn’t hear “voices.” I’ve been hearing them all my life and I do consider myself perfectly sane. Again, to hear these communications clearly, one must step aside from what they “think” they know. The linear mind can definitely play its own tricks.

As we move more toward ascension and energetic shift, the veil between this earthly world and the other realms begins to thin. So it makes communications with other beings more clear as never before.  The goal is to be able to step aside from the “self” and just let the information flow through.

I was at my girlfriend’s house..She had a fire that someone set and believes she know who it was. We went for a walk in her neighborhood and were talking…all of a sudden I felt like I walked into a wall of negative “scary” energy..I wanted to walk away fast from this house we were in front of, I had never felt anything like this before, yet I couldn’t just
leave.

This is called “empathic ability.”  Normal. Nothing to be afraid of. It’s a great gift.

I had to “look” at a certain spot and then I walked fast, trying to “shake” off this feeling…my girlfriend was freaked because out of the 50 houses we walked past, it turns out that was the house the kid lived in that she thought had set the fire…as we continued to walk home, as we got closer to her house, I ’saw” him walking, like I was re-tracing his path to her house that night.  When we got home, she started to tell me how strange that was that I would “feel” that house.

She then started to say how angry she was at him and all of a sudden I “got” this feeling of sorrow for him. I told her that he is weak and lonely, boredom and that it wasn’t him that set the fire, but this other side of him that takes over
because he is weak…I said we had to pray for him and she started to say but what if he comes back, I got very clearly that he wouldn’t that this had nothing to do with her, but that it was random on his part, he just had the need to do it.

Empathic ability helps people heal. This is a good and fine gift. Often Empaths help in police investigations. Very helpful to all.

She said but what if the fire took over the whole house? Her Dad who’’s 88 would have died. All of a sudden I had a “flash” of what I believe was an angel…very tall, it’s shoulders were above my head, I can’t tell if it was male or female, it feels like both, but I felt such a sense of love and peace and protection.

Angels often appear as androgenous. Here on Earth we have the “created” concept of male and female for reasons of physical procreation and also for identification and labeling.  Gender is not necessarily a factor in the other realms. We often believe that our earthbound perceptions are the same in other realities. This is our egocentric point of view, but the truth is just because things appear one way in this earthbound illusion, it does not mean they are this way everywhere else.

I ’saw” this in front of the window where the fire was started. .I turned to her and said nothing would have happened, that there was an angel standing there and that although we all have free will and this kid had to do what he did, that the angel protected them and nothing physically would have happened. 

If we only knew how protected we are. Fear truly is an illusion.

 It is because of this vision and feeling of the angel that the horrible feelings that were still with me from the house finally went away. I actually walked over to the window and stood where I saw the angel. You would think that this spot where the fire damage was would feel terrible, but it was such a wonderful sense of love and peace it was as if I bathed in that energy to rid myself of the negative energy I encountered.  As I stood there, all of a sudden, I HAD to tell her the name Robert/Robbie…I said that I have to tell you this…it is going to mean something. I don’t know why, but it’s
like I had to tell her, I couldn’t get rid of the feeling…this was at 10pm.

Spirit is very persistent. Gentle, but persistent. If you keep being prompted to do something, it’s probably your angels. This is where we must use discernment. As I said, one can tell if it’s Spirit because it’s gentle and persistent and won’t hurt anyone, but it will help them. That’s how you know. Look to the fruits, to the results. And try to remember that as a message bringer, it’s not about you. It’s about the message.

We then had some coffee and dessert and girl-talk and went to bed. The next day, we enjoyed ourselves and made an early dinner and ate at 3:30 with her parents.  After wards, we took her dad for a walk. We asked him which way he wanted to go, left or right, he turned right and off we went with him pushing his walker. As we got a bit farther, he wanted to give up so I started cheering him on. There were people putting trash out two doors down and they started cheering him on too.

As I got to their house, a little boy of 7 came out and said hello. He was adorable, he had Down’s Syndrome and gave me a hug, I asked his name and he said “RJ.”  His mom came over and introduced herself. They were from East Orange and were visiting her parents and this was their house that they were at.  She told me that RJ had Down’s
Syndrome and I said that he was adorable and perfect the way he was and that I was a special education teacher and although some people view that as a handicap, I don’t.

I agree. The children that are coming in now are coming in on a very different light ray. They come in knowing who they are and they come with very special gifts. The reason for that is that the current education system must change. Children are being labeled in all sorts of cruel ways that just don’t even make sense. “Learning disabled” is misnomer indeed. These children learn in multi-dimensional ways and are being made to feel there is something wrong with them because they have trouble learning in a linear fashion. Truly this has to change. It’s really no different with someone that has Down’s Syndrome. They are very, very special people who bring great gifts. It’s also very important for parents of these children, whether it’s a parent of so called “Learning Disabled” or other, to understand that you were chosen to parent these children. There is absolutely no “failure” on anyone’s part.

My girlfriend and her father finally came to their driveway and my girlfriend began to talk to her as my friend is the Social Worker at my school ad case manages my students.  As we were about to leave, RJ’’s dad walked over and introduced himself to me and said hello, “I’m Robert.”  With that the Mom said “Robbie, she’s leaving, say goodbye.”

My girlfriend and I almost fell over…Robert, Robbie what I was given the night before. I had thought it had to do with the kid with the fire, but now see It happened as a confirmation for me to not doubt what was I was feeling or getting as the just “knowing’ thing is a new chapter for me.

 

 

 

“Knowing” is known as Clairsentience. Perfectly natural. And getting names is a very big gift. Not everyone can do that.  Because names are vibration and don’t necessarily translate into something that we can fit into our vocabulary here. So, this is a wonderful gift!


With that said, “I’m OK with the “flashes,” ” just knowing” or the voice that told me to call my grandmother  however, the feeling thing.

These are Empathic ability and Clairsentience as I mentioned previously. We must learn to love and accept ourselves the way we are.  To be anything other than what we are is not the truth, but it is illusion.

Picking up the bad energy…this SCARES me!  How do I protect myself and stop from carrying this with me? 

Very simply understand that this energy does not belong to you. Take a detached view of it. It’s not energy that’s attacking you or trying to hurt you. It’s energy that is or was and it certainly and very simply does not belong to you. To be a conduit of Spirit, to be a bringer of information, to be a messenger, is a wonderful thing because it helps people move forward. You’re simply a vessel. A channel. And if you think about the word “channel,” one definition in say for example, boating terms, is a place where deep things can pass through. See?

I pray for God to surround me with His love and light and for my angels to surround me, but I’m still afraid and I know fear is dangerous.

We are always protected and safe. As with any fear one must really get to the root of it and ask themselves what they are really afraid of anyway? Death?  We are safe, protected, loved, and very guided. Fear can be a good and healthy thing because its genetic purpose is for survival and we are basically programmed to fear death. However, in what we’re talking about here you really have to ask yourself then in what way is your survival being threatened? People tend to fear things they do not understand. If you understand what I said previously about channels and messengers, then maybe you can come to understand there is nothing to be afraid of.

I also want to be able to control this…to turn it Off and On…as of now, things just come…wherever and whenever.

This really just is a matter of practice and point of view. If you understand that this functions as a radio, maybe that helps you. To use a radio you have to plug it in. Then you have to turn it on. Then you have to tune it in to a particular station. It’s the same with these gifts. Turn it on, tune it in. Otherwise it’s just not on. We cannot go around as open receivers all the time. We must learn that it is ok to make a boundary. In public do you feel that you must talk to and engage with everyone in the grocery store? Of course not. You have a boundary. You have a shopping space. If you want to talk to someone you do. If you don’t you just don’t. Must we answer the phone every time it rings?

I feel that I could have picked up more at that house, but was afraid of the energy there…how can I feel secure and safe so that I can get all that I’m supposed to from it and not let my fear stop me?

Hopefully, what I just said helps you do that. There is nothing to be afraid of unless as I said you are afraid to go out in public or afraid to not answer the phone. And I do know that some people are and that’s ok. But my point is that you do have control. You are not a victim unless you believe that you must be one. Also try to get these words in your vocabulary: “I am willing” and “I am not willing.” You get to choose. That is the beauty of the gift of free will.


Does any of this make sense to you…do you get ‘flashes” or hear things or sense things or just know??? 

LOL! Of course. I think most people do actually. But some just persist in having their radio permanently turned off or so low they can’t hear anything but white noise.  As a messenger, I’ve been asked to do a lot of things that have seemed very strange and I’ve delivered many messages. Sometimes that has been uncomfortable. Sometimes people want to hear and sometimes they don’t.

My point is that I’ve been willing to deliver them most times and sometimes not. It’s my choice. And in that delivery I detach. It’s not that I don’t care, because I do care very much about what I do. I’m just very clear on what is my issue and what is not my issue. I bring forth the information because that is what I signed up to do here on Earth, and everyone or anyone gets to take the information and do what they choose to do with it. I am not attached to the outcome of how they use the information or don’t use the information, or even how they perceive the information. It is their choice as it is my choice to deliver or not. Do you see?

My husband believes, but I think he’s afraid and has told me he’s worried about the negative energy and that I may be opening a door I shouldn’t.

Fear blocks love. Why do we assume that this is negative energy? What is the basis of that? Again, fear comes from not understanding. Once we understand something fear goes away.

I am also worried for my oldest daughter. She seems to be sensitive too…one day when she was 3, out of the blue she told me I had a baby in my belly and her name was Madison…she was adamant and annoyed with me that I doubted her, I asked her how she “knew” and she told me she talked to Madison and that she knew she was coming. Now to have my other two children I had surgery and fertility drugs.  We hadn’t been trying for another baby and I had just told my doctor that I didn’t want any more surgery.  Well, 2 weeks later, I found out I was pregnant and sure enough when the baby was born it was a girl and we named her Madison.  If Katharine’s gifts develop as well, I want to make sure that she is able to protect herself as well.

Babies come in with their crown chakras open and trusting. They come in connected to Spirit. That is the baby soft spot on the top of their heads. It closes as a form of “protection” as they fully seat into their earthly incarnations. They also come in “connected” by the umbilical cord and they remain connected until that cord is cut. They don’t come in here with fear. They come in with love. Open, trusting, connected. Fear is learned. Fear is taught. 

Again, we are going to be seeing many great gifts coming from children. They know who they are. They are not afraid and won’t be unless you teach them to be afraid. Examine why you are afraid, who taught you to be afraid, etc. Perhaps you evidenced these sensitivities at an early age as well. And perhaps someone who was afraid taught you to shut that part of yourself down. Truly, we cannot stuff down who we really are. Eventually it just comes back to the surface. Examine your own childhood and see if you can identify the patterns and belief systems that were taught to you regarding gifts of Spirit. Then you can make a decision on what you want to teach your daugher regarding fear.

Any advice or assistance you can offer is greatly appreciated…thank you
for your beautiful web-site!

You are most welcome, Mary Beth! My advice is to let go of fear so that love can come in. It is through love that all things are healed.

Peace and Blessings to You!
mary beth

Peace and Blessings to you too and all who read your letter. I hope you have found this helpful.

Dyan


Healing With Crystals

Dear Dyan:

I’m spiritual with many spiritual gift’s but had a dream that I had to get
heal with crystal’s can you help? I believe I’m a light worker and helped
many people heal unexpectedly but when it comes to me everything goes totally
wrong and that goes for many years I have been in this situation!!! Need
your help seriously.

Yvette

 

Dear Yvette:

This is really a matter of learning to harness and focus your personal power. I am being told to tell you it is equivalent of the “Strength” card in a Tarot deck. Your higher self is engaging in a tug of war with your physical being. Do not be afraid of your gifts. To be afraid of them keeps you stuck in ego self and nothing gets created or manifested from that place. The power of everything is in the Love. Yvette, this is about balance for you. Balance the inner and the outer follows. Conversely, balance the outer and the inner can follow.

Angelic guidance is clearly pointing you in the direction of learning to use crystals in healing. This applies not only to the healing of self, but yes, also to any work you do with assisting others to heal. There is much information out there that is available regarding healing with crystals. Please investigate and do some research on this. One place to start, however, is to buy yourself a personal power crystal and program it match your vibratory rate and program it for healing. And learn to use it to help heal and balance yourself. Crystals work in a vibratory manner. Remember Yvette, let go of fear. The power is in the Love.

 

Angel Blessings and Love,

 

Dyan


Letter from Overwhelmed

Dear Dyan: I have had such a hard life, but not too many regrets. I have had
an abundance of blessings/ My four children and my 9 grandchildren. I just
want to get up in the morning and feel good about life. I have lost my
passion for life I procrastinate and I feel overwhelmed as where to start to
make things better financially and mentally. Please help me. Blessings to you.

 

Dear Overwhelmed:

I understand completely. When we feel overwhelmed, it is important to be able to take one thing at a time. If you look at a messy house or a messy room as whole, it can seem pretty daunting to straighten it up. Whereas if you start in one little corner, focus only on that corner and clean that up, then move to another section and so on, pretty soon you do have a entirely clean area without the “overwhelmed” feeling. So basically, I’m saying to start with that. Start with one little thing that you can change and go from there. And whether we’re looking at a physical mess or a spiritual mess, know that nothing new can enter if we don’t make space for it.  And yes, we do tend to procrastinate when we’re overwhelmed. It’s natural.

To begin to feel better about life we have to get to the root of the matter. What is causing these feelings? I’m sure you know the answer, but I’m feeling like you feel very stuck. Take a look at all your choices that have led you to where you are now. We can’t change those but we can look at the lessons behind the choices. And we can look at what we have learned. And we can take total responsibility for them and move forward from there.

I feel what’s missing here is passion that relates to life purpose. It feels like you’re just going through the motions, not knowing what you’re really here for. How do we change that? By beginning to do things that bring us joy. It really is as simple as that. Do what brings you joy. Choose not to do things that do not bring you joy. When we’re doing things that bring us joy we are beginning to open a pathway to being able to create financially, whether we realize that consciously or not. Examine the times when you felt happy and joyful and figure out why and what you were doing at the time and maybe even who you were with. This will help point you in the right direction. We do all come in with clues about what we came here to do. Sometimes those get lost in the fog of choices. It’s important to know that there aren’t any wrong paths and every path does converge to bring us exactly where we are supposed to be.

So figure out what brings you joy and go do it. Doing even one tiny thing that brings us joy has the power to break the cycle of going around and around in a circle of misery. And if you find yourself telling yourself that you can’t do whatever it is because _______________, then you have to remove the obstacle to _________________. You can do it!

P.S. I do have some other things to tell you that weren’t appropriate to publish here as they are personal, and tried to e mail them to you, but the mail came back unreturned. If you would like me to e mail you these, please contact me and I will send.

 Blessings to you too,

 Dyan


Ex vs. Current

Dear Dyan,

I haven’t written before on an advice page but I have been using Voice of the Angels cards for over  a year now and I always feel the benefit. I am writing to you as my life in a very short time has crumbled very quickly.  My ex-husband who I left in 2003 after years of violence against me has been in court facing charges against children, (very unpleasant charges) I had to give evidence against him in court.  As you can imagine I have been very preoccupied with the process and I fear that I have now alienated my lovely boyfriend. He has decided that he needs to spend more time at his parent’s house and I fear although he says he loves me and cares for me and my two children but I fear that I have pushed him away.  It was never my intention to do that. I was just scared about having to speak in public.  I have asked for advice from my spirit guides but I think I am so anxious at the moment I cant hear what they are saying. I know I can trust your judgment and your advice as to what to do to show my boyfriend that it’s him I love and care for not my ex-husband.  Thank You
xx

Dear Ex vs. Currrent:

Hello! I’m very happy to hear that you are benefiting from the cards. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had this very challenging time lately. It takes a great deal of courage to leave an abusive situation and it takes a great deal of courage to testify in court. It’s true that we can’t hear anything from our guides when we are in a state of fear and anxiety. I am happy to be able to help you with this.

My dear, I do not feel you have alienated your boyfriend. I believe he just needs some space right now to figure things out. The quickest way to push him away though, is to stay in your pattern. And that’s one of the things your guides want you to examine right now. It’s as if you took over this abusive pattern of violence perpetrated against you by your ex-husband, and began attacking yourself and kept doing so long after he was gone. Do you see, Dear One?

You are sweet and loving, but must learn to also love yourself completely and unconditionally. That is the message from your guides. Examine who taught you to be unloving to yourself. And then decide if you want to keep that belief system and pattern or not.  You see, we don’t get love and validation from the outside. That has to come from the inside first and it vibrates out. This is how we attract. If you’re vibrating to fear, anxiety, self-loathing, insecurity, and the like, then that is what returns to you. Please try to come to the place where you accept yourself completely and as lovingly as you love and care for your boyfriend.

People want to be with people who love and honor themselves. So give those feelings to yourself as well. You are worthy of them. And for now, my dear, let your boyfriend have his needed space, while you take this time to regroup and gather back your self-esteem and confidence. Then you can present your “new” selves to each other and hopefully move forward, perhaps after the Mercury retrograde. (This upcoming Mercury retrograde period is the perfect opportunity for self-examination and re-evaluation of patterns and belief systems.) Otherwise, you see, you’ve continued to let the ex abuse you. Do you see? That’s the root of the pattern. That’s what has to go.

And there is one more message here from your guides. They say you did the right thing.

Many blessings and peace to your heart. You are loved and valuable. And you are not alone.

Dyan

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Letter from “Life Purpose”

Hello Dyan:

  

For some time now, I’ve felt that I’m on a path to a life that I am truly excited about, yet, I constantly appear to get in my own way, and question myself at every step. At the moment, there seems to be little to get truly excited about, and its dull and boring to say the least. I seem to get so ‘caught up’ in getting it right, (your words of “let go” are ringing in my ears:)) that I begin to question my own judgment and base my choices on others thoughts or wants / needs. I know, in my heart & soul that this is not my life’s purpose, but I’m also unsure how to discover & move forward to finding out what that purpose is.

  

I also (for some reason) still allow my choices to be influenced by my
parents (whom I love to pieces by the way), and they somehow still have the uncanny ability to lay a mighty guilt trip on me (mostly unintentionally) that has me about-face in a choice I’ve made. I’ve discussed this at length with my parents over the years, each time feeling as though I’ve gained a little more ‘freedom’ and sense of self, but it still works a treat. Having said that, I recognise that I am still working through the sense of being responsible for their feelings and happiness, but at the same time, know that they are the only ones responsible for how they feel etc. Where does one start, to release this, and to also find out what our life’s purpose is? When the ‘discovery or realisation’ of life’s purpose is made, is it the end of life here?

  

Many thanks

  

D.

  


  

Dear D:

  

There is a lot here and I’m going to take it one by one even though it is all related. When we find that we are in our own way, it speaks to patterns. And those patterns are something someone taught to you. Examine the patterns of those that taught you your own patterns and then try to see the reflection of how those people get in their own way. I believe when you really study the underlying patterns here you will discover some type of fear. And nothing can get co-created from fear. We create and co-create from a position of love. Once you firmly have truly examined these things at their core, from there, you have forward moving energy to change the pattern. You either accept it as your own or you don’t.

  

When we find ourselves viewing our life as dull and boring, we must rediscover our passions. Decide what you are passionate about and what you are not. Then simply do not engage in things that do not bring you joy. Make a commitment to doing things that bring you joy, rather than engaging in activities that may “please” others. This speaks to the need for outside validation. You can validate your own parking ticket and don’t need anyone else to do it for you.

  

We are taught in childhood to engage in approval seeking behaviour. But as we grow and mature, no one teaches us to not engage in that. It’s not that one should be self-absorbed, but it’s about being willing to put your oxygen mask on first and then assisting others. There is a very good reason for that instruction. You cannot be of any kind of help or service to others if you can’t breathe.

  

When seeking to align with one’s life purpose, one really has to go back to who they were/are before someone else told you who you are. Examine what you came in here loving to do. Examine where and when you stopped doing and being that. This is the beginning of aligning with your life’s purpose and it is key that you are WILLING to do that purpose. Being willing is a first step toward alignment.

  

Truly, no one can really lay a guilt trip on you unless you allow it, and again that is all about what you’re willing to do and what you’re not willing to do. It doesn’t mean that you don’t feel things or that you don’t care. It just means that you are willing to detach from patterns that no longer are helpful and are basically co-dependent.

  

Get these phrases in your vocabulary: “I am willing” and “I am unwilling.” No one told you that it’s perfectly OK to make a boundary? Our choices are our choices and we should have no regrets about them whatsoever. It seems as if you need to rediscover yourself and accept your choices as your choices even if no one else understands them. You do and that is all that matters. Again, that speaks to self-validation.

  

The thing to let go of is the pattern of seeking approval. You don’t need that anymore and it isn’t serving you in any constructive way. That said, parents always want what they perceive is best for their children. But parents have to learn to let go too and respect their offspring’s journey, no matter what it shows up as. Just know that it is certainly well intentioned.

  

One starts always at the beginning. One must always examine the root of a thing. One must also try to see the bigger picture. Groups of people come in here together to teach each other lessons in love. We’re living in an illusion. If you understand that you’ve chosen to be with these people so that you all may learn lessons in love, and improve the soul group dynamic, it begins to give you a bigger picture. But, while you’re stuck going around and around in your patterns you really can’t move forward. None of you can, so you remain doing things that are comfortable and familiar, even in their discomfort to all. So, the first thing to do is to examine the base patterns and figure out everything about them. Figure out the reflection. Then choose. And when one discovers their purpose it is truly the beginning of life here, not the end.

  

Many angel blessings,

  

Dyan


Letter from Love

Dear Dyan,
I’ve been in a relationship for about 7 months now. everything is great but
my love is sort of fading away, I”m confused in whether I should tell my
partner and make him feel bad or just try and give him a chance.

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Hello “Love.” You have to examine why this loving feeling is fading away. Energy and matter come together at the perfect time to teach each other lessons in love. Perhaps you’ve learned what you need to learn here already. The spirit knows. However, there is another possibility. Perhaps you are avoiding learning what you’re supposed to learn from this situation. That’s why you should examine the very root of why the loving feeling is fading. Examine whether or not this is a pattern you have in relationships. Do you often find that after a while, in any relationship, that love starts to fade for you? As to whether or not you should tell him, I vote for yes and I’ll tell you why. If you aren’t connecting with someone you are basically wasting your time and theirs. You’ll eventually end up at the same place anyway, so it just becomes a matter of when. It’s one more thing to examine as to why you would be willing to stay in a relationship that your heart is not in.


Letter from Confused, Scared, and Frustrated.

  

Hi Dyan

I am in my own business which has been failing for so many years now and financially I am in a bad way. The fear, stress and worry is crippling me and all my relationships around me.

  

Let me get to my point. My faith. I am losing my faith and I sometimes find myself wondering if I am kidding myself about God and his angels.

  

I am praying and asking everyday for a miracle, guidance, anything and I don’t know what more to do. It has been such a long struggle that I don’t know what I have done to deserve this, I have a failed marriage, estranged kids and now a worried new partner. I feel desperate and don’t know where to go from here.I don’t want to give up for fear of total financial ruin. I am really scared. Can I ask the angels to prove to me that they are there and guiding me? Help! I need some kind of advice!!!

  

Thanks, Confused, Scared, and Frustrated.
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Dear Confused, Scared, and Frustrated:

  

There is a lot here and I’m going to try to help you sort it all out in a way that makes tangible sense to you. But let’s start first with the basics. When we are in fear mode, we can create nothing. The power to create comes from Love, not fear, and the two cannot coexist in the same place at the same time. I’m sure you aren’t feeling very loving right now and right there that is enough to immobilize you.

  

So the very first thing to do is to get out of fear mode because this is what is paralyzing you. This may seem challenging at first, but if you understand that it is in your way and you need to eliminate it, it shouldn’t be that difficult. You can already see how this is crippling your life in every way.

  

Now, to get to the part about you losing your faith, try to understand faith as something that we pull out when things are going badly, not something we have when everything is rosy. You really do have faith, but the perspective from which you are looking at things is that nothing is nothing is going your way, so you are ready to give up. My dear, first try to understand that failure is an illusion. Please read my blog post on “Success and Failure.” Miracles are not something that happen in a way that we tell them to. We cannot tell the universe to make things show up in a way that we demand it to be so. To try to do so is again, to be in your own way.

  

Now, let’s take these things one by one. You say you have a business that is failing. If failure is an illusion, which it really is, even if you cannot see it as so just yet, then we can say that this appears to be failing because you are measuring success and failure in terms of money. Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen here? You lose your business? You have to try to come to a place where you are not so terrified of this. Ask yourself why you find this so terrifying and I think you will come up with the answer that you are basing all of your concepts of self-worth and survival on this.

  

Right now you are defining yourself and your life in terms of money as it relates to self-worth. That has to go in order for you to be able to move forward. The most important part of that is to examine who taught you this pattern? Where did you learn about money? Where did you learn about “success.” Who taught you about “failure?” I think you will find that what is going on now in your life is a reflection of those that taught you such things. Try to see it and from there you can make a decision on whether or not this is your belief system or someone else’s. That’s the turning point.

  

Now, in terms of the failed marriage, this is not a failure either. It is simply a lesson. Study it and all of the patterns that went on there in the relationship and see if you can find a theme of ongoing patterns. Those are the patterns that tell you that you are not good enough, that you are a “failure,” that you “deserve” or “don’t deserve” based on someone else’s concept of worthiness. That is what you have to clear and eliminate along with the idea and concept of “failed marriage.”

  

Begin to look at everything as “lessons” and “patterns” rather than “success” and “failure.” Those are the things you need to do to begin to open the flow for the energy of money. Now, begin to wonder what would come after a loss of your business. Is there life after this? Yes, indeed! I can see it, even if you can’t, but you have to let go. And letting go is not the same as giving up. Right now all this is about is that you are simply not aligned with your life’s purpose. It’s like a course correction. It may feel scary, but try to overcome that. Nothing can happen if you insist on pulling the steering wheel in the opposite direction. Isn’t this when we crash into a tree? You see, I believe that if you open up to this concept of something really wonderful happening after you just simply let go, that you will begin to see your life transforming in every way.

  

As for angel’s guidance and presence, of course you can ask for a sign. And here it is. This entire website is about angelic guidance. It is about helping people find their way through the illusion. We will help and guide you. You are not alone. If you have not already done so, please send Tamara the Angel Listener a private message through the spiritual forum. She will schedule you a time for a completely free angel reading in live private chat.

  

Every blessing to you,

  

Dyan


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Letter from “Letting Go of Fear & Anger”

  

Dear Dyan:

  

  

I am the mother of two young sons. I love them dearly, but find I lose my patience with them frequently and yell at them. I never demean them by saying ugly things to them as my mother did to me, but I get angry over my oldest not doing the things I ask him to do repeatedly.

  

  

I don’t want to be this mean, angry mother. I want my kids to see me as loving, calm, and poised. How do I get there?

  

  

I also worry a lot about money. I was raised in poverty and although now we should make enough, somehow there is always lack. I know that it’s me doing this. How can I change my thought patterns? My anxiety over money frequently plays into the ways I interact or don’t with my kids. Please help me.
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Dear Letting Go of Fear and Anger:

  

Children can certainly be challenging. What we’re dealing with here is a pattern. Patterns are taught to us, and good for you that you don’t want to engage in perpetuating the pattern. However, the thing to see here is that even though you aren’t necessarily engaging in verbal abuse, you are still stuck in the pattern. The root of verbal abuse (your mother’s) is anger. And you are angry as well at a root level. You are carrying forward the patterns of your mother, even if you aren’t aware of that. If you want your kids to see you as loving, calm, and poised, you have to BE loving, calm, and poised. So the first thing to do is to make a conscious choice to disengage from the anger pattern. This was taught to you and you’re probably just reacting that way simply because it is an ingrained behavior. If you can see it that way, you have a chance to choose a different way. It is truly a choice.

  

  

    So much of this anger has to do with a feeling of not being honored. That’s a big reason why you get angry at your oldest. By not doing what you ask he is blatantly dishonoring you, just as your mother did. The way to move forward is to begin to honor yourself. When is the last time you did something nice for yourself? I can’t promise that this will go away overnight, but clearly the family dynamic has to change and that is entirely up to you. You can’t change anyone else, but you can change yourself and when you change your own vibration, you shift the energy dynamic that exists and flows through the group, Begin to do things that help you feel loving, calm, and poised, because that is your true self. Get a clear picture of yourself when you felt you were at your best and go and do some of those things. You have to try to reconnect with yourself.

  

  

    The thing that stands in the way of everything is fear. Being raised in poverty, you are still vibrating to “poverty” and “lack,” even though there is opportunity now to not have that be your reality. There is more to this than changing your thought patterns. Something has to shift at a root, base level because that is where the energy of money resides. The “honoring” energy also resides there. It is good that you understand that you are in your own way, because that is a first step toward change. What we think with our thoughts is not necessarily what we believe with our whole being. You can tell yourself anything you want, but what is translating here is what you feel, not necessarily what you think. So somehow, you need to begin to believe (not think) at a core level that you are safe.

  

  

    I’m tuning into your energy and I can tell you that you are safe, that you’ve always been safe. If you look yourself, you will see the same. No matter what, you’ve always been safe and will continue to be so. You know this is true. It’s now only a matter of truly believing that. Take that in, because that is what begins to shift your entire root chakra pattern, and remember that is the pattern that was taught to you as truth. It’s what is stuck here. It doesn’t mean that it is true. It isn’t. Whatever you took in there was someone else’s truth. And believing and knowing and living YOUR real truth is what moves you forward. You ARE calm, and loving, and poised. You are.


Letter from Shelly

  

Hello Dyan. I recently ended my 16 yr relationship with my common law partner last September.
I am becoming at more peace with myself and my decision. I am getting lots of people saying that good things are coming my way.
I have been hearing it for awhile now and I know things are in divine and perfect order. Do you sense that good things are coming my way? I believe that I am about to embark on my self discovery but find I am stuck and scared to try new experiences. Will this phase end soon so that I may embrace my new phase I am about to embark on? Thank you for your guidance. Shelly

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Shelly: It took a lot of courage to end your long term relationship. That was an important step because it was the termination of a pattern. So, somewhere you already have what it takes to move forward and try new experiences. Where we get stuck in phases is when we are in fear, because we can’t create anything from a place of fear. We create from a place of love, and love and fear cannot exist in the same space at the same time. We have to pick one. If you want to end this phase and move forward you have to be willing to let your fears and worries go. And so you need to gather up the very same energy that helped you end your relationship and do something forward moving with it. That energy is the energy that tells you that you are unwilling to be stuck any longer and that you have something to do here.
Yes! I also see good things coming your way. You are now moving toward your life’s purpose. But keep in mind that in order to make that happen you have to DO something. You have to take a step or two forward. Your own intuition is good and you should trust that. You are fine. Get out of fear mode, which is completely paralyzing, and into forward moving mode. Realize that you are in an excellent place because you have opened a pathway to choices. There are no “wrong” moves. You are in charge and you are completely capable. And once you fully realize that you can move forward on the path.


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Manifesting Teleclasses May 21, 22, 23/08

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My goal is that you come out of this class equipped with the information you need to move forward.

My goal is that you come out of this class knowing exactly what has been in your way and exactly what to do about it now.
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My goal is that your life will change now in a positive manner.
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May 21, 2008 – Class 1 – 45 minutes

The Chakras

  • What’s a chakra?
  • Why are they so important?
  • Why are they so important to manifesting?
  • What do they look like?
  • Where are they?
  • What are we supposed to do with them?
  • I already know all about chakras so what can you teach us that’s new?
  • How do we balance them?
  • Automatic Chakra Balance™ – what’s that?
  • Chakras, manifesting, and the Law of Attraction
  • What energy resides in what chakras
  • Patterns and belief systems – where these come from and what to do about them
  • May 22, 2008 – Class 2 – 45 minutes

    Barriers to Manifesting

  • Patterns and belief systems (continued) – where these come from and what to do about them
  • Illusions:
    Fear
    Limitations
    Patterns
  • Steps in preparation of manifesting

  • Discussion of what’s still in your way and why
  • Poverty Consciousness
  • Entitlement
  • Perceptions
  • Excuses
  • Ego position and how we get in our own way
  • Breathing – several different types of breathing and why they’re important.
  • Grounding – different ways to ground ourselves.
  • Centering – What is centering and why it’s important
  • Meditating – How do we meditate and why it’s important in manifesting.
  • Connection – how do we connect and why it’s important in manifesting.
  • May 23, 2008 – Class 3 – 45 minutes

    Putting it all together

  • Intention
  • Aligning your will
  • Clearing an energy pathway
  • How do we make something out of nothing?
  • Manifesting boards. Law of Attraction. Do these things work?
  • How do we get our mind, body and spirit team to work together?
  • Letting go. Control issues. Releasing and detachment from outcome.
  • Gratefulness and forgiveness
  • Integration, what does it mean and why it’s important
  • Anything else that you need clarification on

  • Letter from Kelly

      

    Dyan, I feel like I understand about the Law of Attraction, and that being positive has always helped me avoid the negative. My problem at the moment is that I cannot get away from the negative. I try to put my husband’s recent job lay-off out of my mind, think about positive things, that he’ll get a job tomorrow, that kind of thing, but all I keep thinking about is the past, how he took forever to get a job before, he never wants to work, he always wants to be in charge so he turns people off, etc. I know this isn’t good, and likely he’s thinking negative things as well, because – well that’s just the way he is, so I’m figuring we have a double whammy here and I can’t get him to understand that being positive helps your attitude if nothing else.

      

    So, my question here is, how does one put the negative behind and look at the positive and invision that when so many negative things keep creeping in. I can meditate and I do and am very capable of envisioning things, but for some reason, I can’t make these negatives go away this time.

      

    Any suggestions? I’m quite frustrated with this situation to be sure.

    Kelly

      

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    Being positive absolutely does have an effect because form follows thought. Absolutely. The thing is, we do not “create” anything in our life using just the power of positive thinking. This is only one part of the process. For manifesting, we need to unblock and use the energy of the particular chakra that the thing we’re trying to manifest resides in. For example, the energy of money resides in the root chakra, so that is the chakra we need to unblock and then connect up with the energy of all the other chakras. Do you see? We cannot create a child, for example, with just the power of our minds.

      

    To answer your question about putting the negative behind and envisioning the positive – Try to understand that what’s in your way is so much more than just thinking or envisioning the positive. To have anything shift and change here, you really have to get to the ROOT of the core issues. In other words, the energy blockages are not coming from the mind, but rather from the very root. This is why the flow of money is blocked.

      

    Now, you must know that you cannot change the husband. We cannot change anyone else. But for yourself, you should probably start with learning more about what is blocking your own ability to create. Remember, we create from the root, not from the mind. So examine your belief systems regarding the ability to create a flow of money. Do you have preconceived ideas about how that ought to show up?

      

    Also helpful, perhaps, would be to examine your ideas of what is negative and what is positive. Sometimes “negatives” are positives in disguise. Get to the root of everything. That’s where the real issues are and that’s what’s in your way right now.

      

    Dyan


    Letter from J.H

    Dear Dyan:

    I’m 23 years old and live with my mother. My parents are divorced. My mom is moving to another state soon and I don’t think she wants me to go with her and I don’t think I want to go with her anyway. My dream is to be a singer, but my mom doesn’t seem very supportive of this and neither does my dad. I’m taking voice lessons and piano lessons and I’m paying for those myself. I feel anxious and nervous all the time. I feel very alone. I buy my mom cigarettes and pop and do anything she asks. Why can’t she support me in my dream?

    J. H.

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    Dear J:

    First of all, know that we are never alone even if it feels that way. We are always surrounded by love even if we can’t see it. Parents just want the best for their children. What appears to be non-support from your parents is really just concern. They don’t want to see your dreams get crushed. However, from a spiritual point of view, this is fear based and nothing gets created from fear. The real power is in the love. So follow your heart and follow your dreams and be willing to see where that takes you. There is nothing to be afraid of. There are no limitations unless we believe that there are. The other thing you need to know as you go on your journey is that self-validation does not come from the outside. It comes from inside you. Once you have given yourself that gift, you can shine that out in the form of some very special music. The universe is waiting to hear from you, J. And so am I. Go for it!


    Letter from Oksana

    “Dear Dyan,
    I am 35 years old, and have a son of 16. My husband has died very suddenly 2 months ago. My son, was very attached to my husband, and much more connected with him, then with me. It is difficult for both of us now, but I accept it as it is. My son has closed up completely, and I do not know, how to communicate with him anymore. He would talk to me about his feelings, and he refuses to do anything. He refuses to go to school, refuses to help in the house, just playing computer games whole day…..Could you please advise me, on how to deal with this, and how can I help my son?

    My other problem is my mom…
    Since my husband has died, she took a role of my protector into her hands,without me asking her to do so, and she is poking her nose into everything and all what I do. And I do not know how to cope with that either….

    Thank you very much for your advises.

    Regards, Oksana.”
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    Dear Oksana:

    I am so sorry to hear of the sudden loss of your husband. The unexpectedness of such an event can be very disorienting for those left behind. Grieving is a process and you will need time to heal, so be kind to yourself and allow yourself that time. Your son and you must now use this event to come together and you must reach out to him emotionally, even in your own pain and even if he repeatedly shuts you out. Keep reaching out for him. He needs you to set an example. He needs you to be in charge. You say that he refuses to do anything, but Oksana, you are the parent. You must be willing to step fully into that role. You must set boundaries and rules. He needs that structure right now. To help him you must do this, and not let him wallow aimlessly in his grief. He is using computer games as an escape, when truly you must both face and deal with your grief. Try to understand that you are allowing him to do this and when you stop allowing him to do this you will both be able to move forward. You must clearly communicate to him that there are consequences to not going to school, and consequences for not helping around then house. These are not punishment, but rather, consequences. Make these consequences clear to him. Also, it would be helpful to plan an activity to do together that gets you both out of the house. In the short term, what you need to try to accomplish is a breaking of the pattern that your son has slid into here. And try to help him face his emotions rather than push them away. For example, do you have any photographs of your son and his father together? Get them out and if he’s good with the computer, perhaps he can scan them in and make a slideshow or movie from them. This is easy, creative, and forward moving energy. As for your mother poking her nose into all that you do, please try to see the reflection there. She is as concerned about you as you are about your son. Your son may feel that you are poking your nose into all that he is doing as well. It’s a reflection. I suspect she will stop doing that when she feels you are safely and firmly on your path. Show her that you are.


    Letter from Anna

    “Dear Dyan,
    Since I was 8, I live with my stepmother. Now, I am 27.In the beginning when I moved in that house, we couldt even come near to each other, as we really didn’t like each other. With the years we learned to love each other, and our relationship is very good now, except My step mother is extremely controlling and she doesn’t believe in me. What ever myd reams are, she would always say, that I cant do that.She likes me to just stay home, be with her, talk to her, but she is much too controling to allow me to have my own life.She needs me, and she is holding to me, restricting my freedom completely.I never ever thought of leaving her alone, I will stay her friend whatever, but I want to have the freedom and my own life, not to live her life…

    My father has died 5 years ago.
    Can you please advice me the best course of action in this situation?

    Thank you so much,
    Yours, Anna.”

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    Dear Anna: I am so sorry to hear of the death of your father. Please accept my condolences.

    The place to start with this is to ask yourself why you are willing to be restricted. When you find yourself unwilling to be so, this is when the energy will shift. You have free will and you are an adult. No one can make you do anything. You have choices, even if you find those choices uncomfortable at first. You must start believing in yourself and your dreams. Then you must figure out how to accomplish those dreams irrespective of what anyone else says or does. You must validate yourself. Your stepmother may be controlling, but try to understand that you are allowing her to control you. And then ask yourself why. Ask yourself what you are really afraid of. I think you will find out that you are afraid of “failing.” Anna, if there is such a thing as failure it is in the not trying. It is easy to dream, but it takes action to make a dream come true. Begin the process of taking responsibility for your life by starting slowly. Have one night a week for going out with your friends and very firmly state that on Friday you are going out. Then do so, even if your stepmother has a tantrum and tries to make you feel guilty. Eventually, she will have to accept it. Anna, you have the gift of life and you are free to go live it. When you stop perceiving yourself as a prisoner, you will cease to be one.